Human's action of finding 'love' is never ending. Love to god, love to oneself, love to parents, love to lover, and love to stranger. it's strange how they devote their life in finding the one or the true love. some say it's within urself waiting to be uncovered, others say it's out there and you must act to get it. while I've seen those who actually say it's predestined, just wait and it will stumble upon you ( how contradictory to the God's words of finding your own way, solutions don't come flying to you).
Because love haven't got any real or true definition we now have many meanings or phrases describing love, what is should look like, what to expect, what to give, etc. looking at this i see the endless, unselfish act of human bonding tightly to this one kind of feeling : love. if we see in the holy quran, even Allah said love is bestowed among us, use it to the way of allah and sure it will benefit you.
I've debated with a friend not a long while ago. she ( yes, she's a girl - they surprisingly got much time thinking bout this and generally accepted that they are more emotional than men is the basis why i asked her ) said as we all are too young to be in love ( do anybody know when is the right time to love and be loved? ) we should not ask too many questions fearing it wil caught us with its feeling. and surprisingly ( actually I'm not surprised just want to stress on something , read on ) she knows a lot bout it (another contradictory based on her earlier words). well it went on to say i finally got her definition of love, when to love, etc. and all along we include our priority to abide Allah's law : everything is under His control, and we must accept what He destined for us. but one interesting topic is that when to love. According to her the best time to love is after marriage. and not surprisingly she said it's the way of islam. i agree upon what she said and what comes to my mind is how do you know that's the person that is destined for you, how do you the person is well suited for you.
I believe many people have the same mentality as me. Love is nothing like certainty. It is about exploring ourself, knowing your partner, bring the best out of them. It's an experiment! Love is worth the troubles i tell you. When you finally have that special someone everything around you just as not as important nemore! It's just you and her. well, i asked her and she said we must always pray to allah and don't question his credibility. if there's jodoh with that person, so be it. if after that it proves to be a wrong marriage ( how do we define wrong actually, is it really the other person fault or it's ours? ) then that's what is destined for us. i like to say cerai is not my favourite kind of action and because of that i'm not quite agreeing that we just accept our fate. before i continue this, just wanna tell you all that this topic is getting deeper ( like mentioning the word marriage) and please if you are not accepting this too well just live a comment. fate in islam we call qada and qadar. and the only sealed fate of us is our jodoh, death, and i cant recall the other one. because jodoh is predestined then how we know who's that person? the only positive thing to do is well. pray and always improving urself. a good man is for good woman. and how do you know if the person is not your one? you'll never know. it's quite frustating but i believe in allah the greatest decision maker of all. for us black is black but for Him black may be white in other sense. i'm not questioning allah decision, just trying to hybrid the human's rational mind and the divine revelation of allah. there's limit where mere human cant go and we must have faith to get a hint of what's there.
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