Being judgmental

im learning that to be judgmental is not good.

im saddened when people are too extreme in their judgement it clouds their compassion and decision.

im more scared when Muslims freely pass judgement as if God speaks through them.

dont we realize even the beloved Prophet never pass judgement freely?

the sahabats are so scared to give their opinions because they know they will be held accountable for everything they said and did at the hereafter.

despite that i know we will have opinions on everything.

it's perfectly normal to have opinions but not exactly by passing judgement to everything and everyone.




Before you pass judgement onto others please consider these questions first :

-have you really been living the Islam way of life thoroughly and faithfully?

-do you realize everything you said is held accountable at the hereafter?

-is it in the teachings of Islam to call names, say bad things, and/or accuse of anyone be it Muslim or non-Muslim without you really have in depth knowledge of the subject?

-are you better than Rasulullah and the sahabats? because the Prophet himself never hated his neighbour that throws shit at him every single day until that neigbour died and he came to her house to say his condolence.

-only God Himself knows the absolute truth about everything and realizing that do you really know is a person is going to heaven or hell?

-do you know the only way into jannah is by His mercy? so, despite whatever you thought or knew a person had done who knows that God has gifted that person His mercy?

-then after looking at the questions above, is it in our position at all to be judgemental when it is never ours to begin with?





a reminder mostly for me and whomever reads this.

p.s. judgemental is different to opinion.

salam.

Blog updated!!!

it's been over a year since i updated this blog. much had happened during the past year. i wish could put it all here but my memory doesn't really serve me good. you see, my memory works in a way that even i cant clearly understand. i can remember something utterly useless without any effort and sometimes i cant remember a thing even if i spent hours trying. huh, wonder
where did i put my helmet just now? wait, i don't have any helmet! haha

so, maybe i feel like i want to write this today. maybe because i after i read adzim blog i think i owe like whoever is reading this.haha.i don't think anybody read this anyway. it still serves as a reminder of me and what i think and feel right now.that counts for a write i suppose.haha.

ok, now where do i start? well, let's look a year back...obviously!
that was during my 1st semester. we were doing project in terengganu.the terengganu traditional games center. okay, let's just say it sucks!! i mean my end result was the worst so far in all my projects done by my judgment. and that, sums it all. then, it was our last semester as the student of bachelor in architectural studies. i was so excited that we went to singapore. it was my first time going overseas!! and thats where the happiness ends actually. the semester was, how should i say it...frustating. it was the most exciting project i had done but the end wasn't really much to our expectation.we got into some problems and some students had to repeat the 2nd semester in a period where things began to change to kaed. because of our doings. the akujanji letter was introduces subsequently in the next new academic year and effectively put us on the losing end of the trade.some experience huh? nope.wakaka

heh, then it was time for our heritage studies. which got me to inner Mongolia,china. yes!!! it was like the most exciting and well spent time there. we really had fun and got into shopping so much. i don't really remember what i bought but my money's gone and sure that was by shopping right? right? wait, i remember eating so much there i gained like 2 kilos!! that's much i tell you! thanks to the most juicy meat satay i ever ate in my whole life!!! we ate like 5 sticks everyday.at least! noticed i never mentioned bout what we originally supposed to do there? well, maybe because my job was to take pictures and videos that it was natural to me and i really don't remember it that well.haha.duhh

my mind was elsewhere when i applied to continue my study in part2 at kaed. i was busy searching for uni offering architecture course in australia. i got accepted into 4th year and spent like one whole semester studying. during that time i got several offers from the unis i applied and eventually decided to accept the offer to deakin university. im going there this february with 7 others that i know of. im really looking forward to this new chapter in my life thanks to my family that fully supported me.which i will never get to give back what they sacrified to make sure i'll be there.except for eterneal gratitude to u all.really, i love them with all my heart.

which brings me to november 09. i worked as a design consulant at fd architects. i finally worked!! i never thought i had survived the working world. but there i was, designing (more like renovating) bungalows and catering centre.haha. it was good time. i totally love my workmate that is hazim, my boss.hahaha.and afiq. i wished we will work again with each other in the future.and add kupaf into the mix and it's the perfect working experience i should get.haha.
wishful thinking that was.

now this is an interesting event that i should mention. during my time working there, i managed to coax hazim and afiq to go to a book fair namely the big bad wolf book fair to look at some books. the price for the book there were ridiculous!!! the most expensive was only 10ringgit and i got back with 14 books totalling only rm100.where in normal situation would go for like around rm700!! maybe...haha. but because the price was so insane that hazim and afiq thought they had to get at least some books themselves. and there u go, i just started a reading revolution to afiq
and hazim. two people that would puke at the sight of a novel if given to them and now is big fans of cecilia ahern!!! can u believe that?!! and most interestingly as hazim and afiq took their books back home, their family started rading and there u go again!! another book revolution. at least im partly responsible and im proud with this!wakaka

theres more i should note. several of my friends got engaged and planned to marry. congratulations to che raiskandar and amiera samad. and also adzim marzuki and asmaa zamil. this couple caught us by surprised.really few knew bout their relationship until they got engaged. still, may all of u be blessed forever :)

and what about me? nope, im still here.for the time being my heart is reserved for my mom.yup,that's it.reserved.for the number 1 girl of my life.haha.and do u know when will the next important girl comes in ur life? nobody knows and thats where i put my bet on.

i feel like i just wrote nonsense.haha.wonder why.

during right around the same time in november i started the obssession in action figures. particularly spawn and one piece figures. i bought my first spawn from an online ad and got a nice deal.now i in total i have in my possession 5 spawn figures and 2 one piece figures. my very first action figure actually was the lead singer of detroit metal city which i gave to my elder brother. of course, it's now somewhere in his house.haha

the kumbangs is my other obssession. we just released the kumbangs tshirt design and hopefully would be able to put it to print before i go to aussie. u can get the whole story of kumbangs in other blog that im planning to write about. sometime in the future.hahaha.

reading it all back i guess its not much to talk about eh? haha.what do they always say.life is a short one.live in meaningful or meaningless. its all up to you in the end. i always thought by 23 i'll be having beard and moustache and sorts.haha. looks like the hair decided not to show up yet..maybe it has...at someplace else.wakaka.

so, there u go a summary of what have been over the past year.im thankful to god to what he has bestowed upon me. hopefully i dont put it to waste and try to live my life the fullest..

untill next time :)

info

for your info:

all the posts beinning from ' another twist of love' to beyond borders 2007' are from my previous blog in friendster. tq.

Beyond Borders 2007

Pengalaman yg xleh dilupakan sepanjang program. Ada yg klakar ada ug memalukan, x krg yg letih dan menyedihan. But it all makes me stronger and better!

1) "PC fun" tulah ayat yg selalu diuar2kan shafik. head PC kitaorg. serious mmg fun! tiap2 kali mesyuarat mmg ada jer klakar tahap dewa yg dia buat. tambah plk dgn kuasa klakar din dgn zul, mmg klakar giler dorg ni! aku plk dok tersengih jer kat tepi nk wat klakar gak tp xde talent.haha.

conclusion : PC mmg FUN!

2) Kena jaga PAM Carnival Day bhgian jual-menjual. Cuak aku bl shafik srh aku pgg mende nih. x penah2 aku organize benda cam nih sekali dia bagi baik punya! Benda BESAR nih, bkn kecik! maka bermulalah episod aku mencari pak cik dgn makcik psr mlm nk jmpt dorang dtg meniaga kat karnival kitaorg nih. tima kasih kpd fern yg teman aku pg psr mlm kat tmn melati. pergh, experience mmg byk dpt time ni. blh plk wat muka slamber mcm kitaorg xde kat dpn mata! ada lg klakar, fern dh ckp kemain lg kat mak cik sorang nih alih2 rupanya dia jual SAYUR! hahaha, klakar giler! mau x malu fern. haha. rilek fern, rilek. pastu hilmi dan hazwan jgk , tlg dlm cari org2 nih. juga tima kasih kpd kak zehan yg tlg contact domino's pizza. thank you!

conclusion : alhamdulillah, hari tu sumer berjln lancar. TQ kpd sumer yg terlibat! TQ500x!

3) Nak pg CM. Maka pada satu mlm itu aku bersembang2 dgn en. hazwan. adapun dia berkata bahawa dia dtg ke uia dgn menaiki sebuah kereta. aku yg dgn ikhlas mempercayainya pun mengajak pg ke CM esok dgn sangkaan bahawa dia mempunyai sebuah kereta! Tup tap esk time nk pg aku dgn muka confidentnya mengajak lg beberapa org lain, namely fern, qiz and tasnim. aku igt hazwan wat klakar jer bl dia ckp dia xde keter tp bl dia tanpa putus asa bertanyakan dimana keter aku maka kuarlah peluh sejuk dari dahi aku! rupanya dia igt aku ada keter pastu blh plk aku igt dia ada yg keter! maka terjadilah perkara plg memalukan spnjg beyond borders ni berlangsung kpd aku. pergh, sgt malu hingga aku terus bk tanpa berkata apa2 kpd dorang yg menadi 'mangsa'. sori beb! sori!!!!!

conclusion : lain kali jgn naik 'keter' hazwan!! haha

4) jaga PAM opening nite bhgn lampu hall. mmg kelam kabut mlm tu. shafik dgn gimik dia yg x siap2 pastu lgsg x rehearsal. dgn hilmi yg cuak gila nak mati psl kena jd floor master. pastu suhail, din, dgn azhari yg dgn komited tnp penat lelah menyiapkn beyond borders nyer dominos. sape ada mlm tu tau apa mende nih. tp mmg cantik !! gud job! dlm kul 7 baru nk assemble org bg tugasan msg2, pastu bl x ckp org saper2 je yg ada dkt2 situ pn kn jgk! mmg kecoh! nasib baik ak kn bhgian lampu hall. tutup time opening pastu bkk blk bila sume dh habis. yg ak tau sgt kompleks nk 'jaga' CAC nih rupanyer! suis gila byk nk mati! nasib baik abg IP sumer sporting. ckp apa dorang ikut jer. TQ!

conclusion : it's an event to be remembered. with lots of fun and experience!

promises

Promise me, when u are out there
be urself, never be what others want you to be

promise me, when your feelings down and gloomy
cheer urself up, get the positive of life

promise me, when u are happy
cherish the moment, as happy times often forgotten

promise me, when u are sad
wipe the tears, and keep going on

promise me, when u are in love
u will love him unconditionally, as true love always gives

promise me, when u achieve ur objectives
u remember the lessons it thought, as life comes from experience

promise me, when someday, u are somebody
u will remember and appreciate those who helps u along the way

promise me, when u are old and wrinkled
u will have families and friends that will never leave u

promise me, to always remember me cause i will never forget u.

what is this about feeling?

All of us hopelessly and endlessly indulge ourself in the game of feelings. Understandably it is that makes a human, humane. Yet most of the time what we care is just the feeling which concerns on ourself, us only. The part which we are involved or at least will feel the consequence after a decision or an incident had happen. At a tender age like me and all others alike, the maturity of processing feelings accordingly are still not within our grasp. Yet to say that the decision youth made of their feelings are incorrect is absurd. Everybody have feelings, nobody disagree with that. They say youth must express themselves, youth should give their bits to the futures. And I without any disagreement agree with it and before all of that could happen does any of us know the true meaning of feeling is? because feeling is something so complex even the sages still after ages haven't themselves define the truest or most correct answer of feeling is.why? is it because everybody at any stage with even the same opinion have their own feeling towards something. or simply because to show how special humans are and great God is that feeling could differentiate us all. because when someone, have feelings towards another being it is deemed sacred. but only to the bearer of that feeling. because when that feelings are broken,frustrated, does it look the same anymore? does we look at feeling as our centre of life or is it just another part which completes us. And feelings ( as if they have their own lives ) is playing games with us. As stated earlier, at this line of age we are not even close of grasping the game concept of feeling. Neither also those who ignored it which also includes the adults. Not even close but not not within reach. Games where aqal plays central role, where people around us involved directly or indirectly, environment as the backdrop with no less influence and us humans as the star actors. And it is either we play it nicely,smartly,roughly,innocently,carelessly,brutally,faithfully, or others there still will be an end and an answer to it. And until then feelings never leave us, they'll never abandon us like we did to them always. So same says just do it and let life take you where you should be or Islamicly "Allah tidak akan membantu kaum (orang) ang tidak mahu mengubah nasib mereka sendiri". What has all these connect to feelings? Ask urself.

get it over with!

a friend of mine asked me to write on this topic because a friend of him ( not surprisingly a girl ) wants to know bout it. well, miss E this what i can tell you. mind you all, this is from my own point of view it's not professional nor can be ignored. take what you think benificial, leave what you think is not parallel with your view. leave a comment if you wish. : )

boys will always talk bout what type of girl they want, from explicitly sexual type to unbelievably kind and beautiful type. yes, boys do speak of girls quite a lot, and more than you girls would think of. and normally, if someone or a group started to discuss this topic it can prolonged till staggering 3-5 hours! and along that we can hear various views of boys, some quite interesting, some are boring, some hilarious, and some seriously sexual. haha. don't be offended, boys will always be boys ( until they are matured then they are called man! ).

let me tell you what typical boys want. beautiful/good looking, manja, sporting, great physical, and more.... that from what my girl friend said are all SIDE PACKAGE. apparently boys are looking more to side package rather than the MAIN PACKAGE. but of course that's temporary and for those who are trying to find their real one will no be affected by this. well, actually maybe a little bit. those characteristics if you see through it actually means nothing than FUN! boys don't seriously get in love with you if they see a girl through those view. they just want to have fun! they want to see the girl's sexy muscular body and the ultimate goal is when they finally got the her fragile body. yes, not all boys are like that. but majority of them is like that.

this is a killer tip. when a girl do this to a boy, i highly doubt that any boy will ever let go of this girl. a girl need no good looks, need no great body, need no to be sexy as long as they APPRECIATE the boy. try imagine a typical not so wealthy, not so popular, not so handsome, not so brainiac boy. what they want is someone to APPRECIATE them. someone who actually cares bout them. someone actually gives them calmness and happiness. a girl need no those SIDE PACKAGES as long they have this trait.

i'll explain a bit on this. appreciate his style of fashion even it's not that stylo ( hard to do eh? haha ) appreciate his words even it's not so toughtful, appreciate when he called you, appreciate his absentness ( sometimes he's just into another world, don't worry give his time alone, he'll highly appreciate what you have done) appreciate every little thing he had done. ( i'm falling in love with this "girl" haha) don't let this guy do everything on his own ( give your opinion, if he need any help he'll definitely ask for it ) and boys will not let go of his grip on you!

how bout it? if you got any comment please write it down. this is my personal view. don't take things for granted. allah is the highest power in whatever you do. never forget that. assalamualaikum